“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
When I was in my teens, I’d spend hours in my own head thinking of the life I I wanted, dreaming of a career in marketing, going to lunch in power suits, and then returning home to a spacious loft with a to die for view. Back then, the only thing I wanted was a successful career and a nice home. My future plans didn’t include children or a husband.
Fast forward to today and I have everything I never knew I wanted. Becoming a wife and mother made me a better person but it also pulled me further away from the career path I dreamed of before adulting took over.
In my Happy New Year post I shared my goals but I didn’t share my word for the year: Vision.
Vision is a noun that means noun the faculty or state of being able to see.
Have you ever heard someone say “you can’t see the forest for the trees?” For years, I could only see what I needed to do for my home and family. Those needs, while valid, filled every nook and cranny of my life. I pushed aside my career and personal goals, only doing enough to keep my skills up for someday. Only doing enough to keep me slightly visible. Only doing enough to feel like I mattered to someone other than the people I lived with.
A few years ago, I had a wake-up call. But, I hit snooze. I continued on my path because allowed what I thought I should do (seeing the trees: my family’s immediate needs) prevent me from pursuing what I knew to do (the forest: my goals, which would meet my family’s immediate needs and secure our future). Not holding on to my dreams clouded my vision.
This month, I decided to let go. To dream big. To dream bigger than I ever have. To be awake and present, knowing that I can manage love and motherhood while walking in my purpose.
It has been a little unnerving because I haven’t flexed those muscles in a while. Looking back over the past 15 years, I realize that I didn’t pursue my dreams because I thought success in one area meant failure in another. So I put all of my heart and soul into my marriage and family, leaving nothing for me. Now, I realize that I can be successful at more than one thing at a time. And, so can you…
What is the one thing that you’ve put off for yourself? What is that one dream you can chase alongside your current responsibilities that will move you closer to the life you left behind?