We’re approaching the middle of March, and I’ve been trying to figure out the best way to make selflessness more of a priority in my life. When I started praying about my word for the year and words of the month for 2017, I had no idea how the importance of each one would play out in my daily life.
This month’s word is selflessness.
Per Google, selflessness is when one is “concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than one’s own.”
I was shocked that the word came at this point in my life. As a wife and mother, I’ve served my family faithfully and consistently, in most cases putting their needs above my own. My desire for a thriving career was put on hold when I married a collegiate coach. Our average time in any given city over the last fourteen years is eighteen months. How do you build a career when you move that often? How do you work on your dreams when everyone else is a priority over you?
In a few months, I will be forty-one years old. Like most women in my age group, I gradually began to realize that I matter, too. So, I added me—my dreams, my goals, my desires, my needs—to my daily to-do list. I became fearless in my approach to life and my approach to me.
What I found is that being fearless is not enough. I must also be relentless in seeing my dreams come true, my goals manifested, my desires satiated, and my needs met. Each of the things I want has a “service” aspect beyond my family. Yes, I’ve served my family. Now, it’s time to stretch myself and selflessly serve others.
“And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” So God granted him what he requested.” – I Chronicles 4:10 (NKJV)that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain! - I Chronicles 4:10 (NKJV) Click To Tweet
As the territory in my writing and professional life expands, I have come to realize that as I ask God to bless me, I must be aware of how I affect others. There are times I must hold my tongue, marshal my thoughts, and control my attitude. I must make decisions that not only benefit my family and me but help and not hurt others.
Like Jabez, I want the blessing of a God-expanded territory, being kept from evil, while causing no pain to others.
Selflessness requires me to consider the needs of others as I am relentless in building my dreams.
What does God require of you in your daily walk?