Sin is Our Problem

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Have you ever paid attention to where Rahab’s home is in relation to that of the Proverbs 31 Man or Boaz?

On Sunday I visited a new church. It was my first time attending service at a Church of God in Christ Church, outside of my mother’s, in at least eight years. The good thing about COGIC churches is that many pastors preach about our responsibility as Christians instead of what we can get as heirs in the Kingdom of God.

With the exception of failing to lay a foundation for how we should live, I have no problem with prosperity teaching. Unfortunately, our goal to be prosperous instead of fulfilling The Great Commission has Christians embroiled in as much scandal as the world. But we’re only human. That’s true. In all of our striving to be like Jesus we will always be sinners saved by grace.

Grace. That is the word. My mom often warned my sisters and I that it is better to be in God’s grace than at his mercy. It took a while for me to get it—almost 20 years—but the truth of grace versus mercy finally stuck with me. Just in case you didn’t know grace is when God chooses to bless us even though we are unworthy. Mercy is when God delivers us from judgment.

Sin is Our Problem

Everyone is in an uproar about Ashley Madison and how Josh Duggar and Sam Radar—both supposedly devout Christians—had accounts with a service that helped married people cheat on their spouses. Sad, right? From a natural perspective yes. From a spiritual perspective no.

I didn’t write Christian on purpose. Jesus didn’t call us to be Christians—he called us to be and to make disciples. According to Ephesians 6:12:

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

The sanctity of marriage is as much a spiritual struggle as it is a physical battle. A solid foundation in Christ spiritually and not the religion of Christianity is necessary to maintain a healthy and whole person—one who sins but not makes it a practice of sinning.

The sanctity of marriage is as much a spiritual struggle as it is a physical battle. Click To Tweet

Where Temptation Lives

In Biblical times, city and business leaders conducted their business at the city gates. The Proverbs 31 Husband was respected at the city gate, where he took his seat among the elders of the land. And, when Boaz was ready to marry Ruth he went t the city gate and found ten seniors who readily took seats where he instructed them to sit (Ruth 4). But, apparently leaders and elders aren’t the only ones at the city gate.

Rahab described as a prostitute, lived on the walls of the city gate because her clientele was there. Men who had the money to pay for her services.

While I’m sure not every elder or leader in the city patronized Rahab I do believe they knew about her. Otherwise, the King of Jericho would not have known to go to her to inquire about the men.

Foundationally, the way Jesus taught us to pray included “And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.” Because we are desensitized to evil we often fall into its traps.

It doesn’t matter if it is Ashley Madison, pornography, lying, cheating, fornication, or gluttony—any sin is temptation based on selfish desires and our failure to root our salvation in a spiritual relationship with God instead of in the religion of Christianity. In other words, wives should hold their husbands up in prayer and husbands should do the same for their wives. Man’s judgment via God’s mercy is better than God’s judgment.

Man’s Judgment Versus God’s Judgment

The wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23).

This could be the death of Josh Duggar’s career, his marriage or even his pride.

Death can come in many forms. As I wrote earlier, this is a spiritual battle and, thankfully, Romans 6:23 doesn’t end there but here… “but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

We might view the fall of the Christian identified men on Ashley Madison (or in other scandals) as them being hypocrites. That is probably true. However, it is better for them to suffer through our limited judgment than God’s judgment. God was merciful enough to allow this exposure so that these men could reconcile with Him. That is the end goal. God wants us all to have eternal life in Him.

While Ashley Madison is the tool that was used to  expose adultery in Christian relationships, our acceptance of sin in our lives is the ultimate problem. Because God wants what is best for us, He allows our sin to be exposed so that we can reach our destiny in him.

If we could hack your heart, what would the world find?

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NOTE: Please don’t read this as a defense of Josh Duggar. As a married woman, I do believe in the sanctity of marriage. I also know about the “trap” of sin and God’s redemption.

Sin is Our Problem


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Makasha Dorsey is an award-winning author, motivational speaker and public relations professional. Her personal essay Diary of an Aspie Mom is included in The Motherhood Diaries (Strebor Books/Simon & Schuster). She blogs about being a writer, mother, wife, woman and Christian over at a wife in progress and has written for Absolute Write, The Midwest Book Review, Snaps1000Words, The Daily Times Leader, and ModVive Magazine. You can purchase a copy of her book First Family Secrets on

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