Seeing Clearly

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Have you ever walked outside on a bright, sunny day and found yourself squinting as your eyes adjusted to the natural light? Or, have you ever been fast asleep in a dark room when a roommate or spouse flicked on a lamp and the light from it assaulted your eyes giving you a momentary headache?

If you answered “yes” to either of these questions you will understand the analogy given in this post. If not, live a little while longer—I promise this will make sense one day.

Seeing Clearly

As life happens and we pay attention to the people, places and things around us, the “rose colored glasses” that initially prevented us from seeing the truth in it all become cumbersome, like trying to see in a dark room. Yes, we can see everything happening before our eyes but our perspective of it is skewed because the light blush of the tint inhibits our ability to make out the details.

Sometimes we live with blurred vision because we don’t want to know the truth. The truth hurts so we hide behind our skewed vision ignoring the smell of smoke and the stinging of heat on our skin, convincing ourselves that if we don’t look at the fire somehow it will fizzle out and not engulf us. Believe me; the fires you allow to burn around you will eventually burn you.

The initial shock you feel after you take off your “rose colored glasses” will be downright painful, kind of like walking from a dark room into blaring sunlight. You’ve known all along the sun was out there but avoided it because you were unprepared to deal with the heat. This is much like life.

When you start seeing the people, places and situations around you for what they really are you will feel some kind of way. There will be people around you who are genuine and true, who would like to see nothing more than your success. And, there will be people around you who you thought had your best interest at heart but are really wolves in sheep clothing. Seeing them for who they really are presents a great opportunity for you—you get to decide if you want to keep them in your life or to let them go.

When you see clearly you have choices. You have control; even if realizing it is blinding.

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Makasha Dorsey is an award-winning author, motivational speaker and public relations professional. Her personal essay Diary of an Aspie Mom is included in The Motherhood Diaries (Strebor Books/Simon & Schuster). She blogs about being a writer, mother, wife, woman and Christian over at a wife in progress and has written for Absolute Write, The Midwest Book Review, Snaps1000Words, The Daily Times Leader, and ModVive Magazine. You can purchase a copy of her book First Family Secrets on

6 comments on “Seeing Clearly”

  1. Whitney Reply
    These are beautiful thoughts. As I've gotten older I've realized it's not always about having as many friends as possible, or making sure everybody "likes" me. There are people out there who are just plain old mean and I have to protect myself and my family from them. It's sad, but it's reality.
    • Makasha Dorsey Reply
      Like you, I believe in building fences. I'm also going through a purging phase as I realize that even friendly relationships can be the wrong relationships for me.

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