“The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong,” – Ecclesiastes 9:11
I haven’t used very many Bible verses in this series but the one above gives me strength in my daily walk as an aspie mom. I don’t have to be the fastest, strongest or even smartest. All I have to do is finish my race.
I am my own competition and my family is in itself a complete journey without me looking over my shoulder to see what others are doing. I have to beat my personal best daily.
If I was frustrated yesterday then I must find ways to regain my composure today. If I was short with my husband on Sunday, then I must work on being a little more attentive on Monday. Each day brings a new opportunity for you be a better you.
Applying this to parenting can be difficult. You want your kids to compete on the level of kids their own age. You want them to have friends. Heck, you even want them to be a little bit more popular or talented than you were as a child. I get it.
I never admitted that when my son was not labeled gifted I felt disappointed. My disappointment didn’t apply to him. I was disappointed in myself because he was unprepared to do well. I had to come to grips that that particular title would not be in his transcripts. Then I realized that it didn’t matter. I have a smart and talented kid—no sheet of paper could take that away from him. He has to perform at his personal best and now I’m okay with it.
I let go of my expectancy that my children should accomplish what I had and more. They have to take their own journey—independent of what I hope for them. They can win their own races, in their own fields and within the parameters they set for themselves.
Yes, I will always push them to be their personal best at all times but what I accomplished or what anyone else accomplishes is not their race. They are winning at life because they are living the life they were called to live.
Are you winning by allowing your children to uniquely live their own lives, competing in a race against themselves and not the world?