One of the most challenging tasks a parent undertakes is determining age appropriate discipline techniques for their children. While parenting is filled with purchasing cute tiny clothing and playing fun educational games with your offspring, the ultimate goal of parenting is to raise children who grow into respectable, self-sufficient citizens.
When a disability is thrown into the mix parents must be even more discerning about how a child is disciplined. Prior to my son’s initial diagnosis of Sensory Integration Disorder (SPD), I really didn’t know how to respond to his tantrums. He wasn’t a disobedient child at home. He just didn’t like public places, especially crowded ones. After my son’s diagnosis it was easy to not want to discipline him for anything. He was going through life battling his own sensory system. Didn’t he deserve a pass? No, he didn’t.
As a parent, I still had an obligation to raise a good person. I wanted him to be smart, kind and considerate as well as love God. If I didn’t help him to be obedient and to control himself I would do a disservice to him and to the people he would eventually encounter. Parents must always remember that their little tantrum throwing three year old boys will grow into big tantrum throwing thirty year olds if they are not taught how to manage themselves.
Over the years I’ve learned what bothers my son. I know the look in his eyes when he is uncomfortable. I can also spot defiance a mile away too. I can do this because I took the time to pay attention to the signs that caused him to misbehave. Then, we sought ways to help him maintain control in uncomfortable situations.
Disciplining children is tough. What resources have you found to help you, your family and your child’s teachers understand the difference between a disability issue and a discipline issue?
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