“I Didn’t Know" is for more than just an audience of one. If you look to your left, look to your right, or directly in the mirror, you will see or know someone who has been sexually abused… even if you look in the mirror, and the person is YOU! More than the tragedy of sexual abuse is the tragedy of the silence of sexual abuse. It must be talked about. Our stories have to be shared; someone’s life is literally depending upon YOU to BREAK THE IGNORANCE OF SILENCE! "I Didn’t Know" brings to the forefront the many hidden faces of child sexual abuse. The author, Yvette L. Allen-Tatum, shares not only her story, but the compelling testimonies of others–everyone from the actual victim, to the offender, to those who standby by in disbelief and allow these heinous crimes against our children to continue. Our voices have to be heard, our children must be free or freed to tell the TRUTH: that someone touched them. Who can they run to? Will it be you?
This book proves that true healing is possible and necessary for us to become more than CONQUERORS through Christ Jesus.
As a community, we have to:
- Identify Child Sexual Abuse –
- We have to talk about it (raise public awareness)
- Know the signs & symptoms
- Confront Child Sexual Abuse –
- Error on the side of caution – THE CHILD
- Be quick to BELIEVE the victim and make all necessary inquiries
- Studies show people are more apt to believe the innocence of the accused; this has to END
- Overcome Child Sexual Abuse –
- We overcome by the Blood of the Lamb and the WORD of OUR TESTIMONY
Interview with Yvette Allen Tatum
When did you realize you had a book (or some books) inside you?
Well, I’ve always written in some form or another and I believe that’s because I’ve always been a dreamer. I enjoy journaling and writing plays. I did not realize that I had the capacity to write for an audience until some of my school papers were reviewed for a counseling class. From there I sat down one weekend and wrote my first book. At the time I did not know it was a book because I was merely just getting/putting my thoughts and feelings on paper for me. After my husband read it he said I should publish it. From there I met with a publisher, who was also my husband’s publisher (he writes poetry), and I guess I can say the rest is history.
Why is the theme of this project important?
The theme of this project is important because it is about more than just me. The subject matter, child sexual abuse, is a far broader subject than just what happened to any one person. Child sexual abuse has become an epidemic in our society and it’s time for people to wake-up and stop ignoring what’s going on around them. Child sexual abuse has become an epidemic for many reasons but some of the basic issues are: (1) people simply just don’t know what child sexual abuse is, the signs and symptoms and (2) perhaps most important, people do not want to believe that the person accused is capable of committing such a crime against anyone yet alone a child.
What did you learn about yourself while writing this book?
The original intent of the book was just to share my story. I hoped that by boldly sharing my story that I could encourage someone else to share theirs and thus, help them to be set free from the bondage of the guilt and the shame. Yet, the book began to evolve and take on a whole purpose and meaning of its own. I began to have a genuine desire to set the captives free! I wanted people to know that true deliverance from their past comes from being open and honest about what happened to them. I want our communities and the world at large to know what child sexual abuse is and how prevalent it is in our society. I want to arm and equip people with the necessary information/knowledge to be able to Identify, Confront and Overcome Child Sexual Abuse.
How do you find time to write?
Well, because I write by inspiration finding time to write is kind of easy. I write by inspiration which is usually when I am relaxed and just meditating on the goodness of God and my life. From there I become inspired. I’ve already written my third book in my mind; I just have “take the time” to get it down on paper.
If you could work on a writing project with anyone (dead or alive), who would it be? Why?
I would love to have the opportunity to work with Tyler Perry because he really knows how to tell a story and convey a message. I want my writings to have true meaning and depth.
About Yvette Allen Tatum
Yvette is a graduate of Grace Christian College where she earned her Masters of Divinity and a Bachelor of Arts in Theology. She is also a graduate of University of Richmond, where she earned a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration with a Concentration in Finance and a Minor in Leadership Studies. In addition, she has 30 plus years of experience in income tax preparation and bookkeeping.
As the Founder of Surrounded by Faith Ministries, Yvette has had the opportunity to touch and transform the lives of many women with the Word of God. This mighty Woman of God has a prophetic teaching anointing which has enabled her to cross many boundaries. As such, the Call of God on her life has broadened from transforming the lives of women to transforming LIVES with the Word of God. While she still holds a passion to train and equip women in the life study and application of the Bible, her ultimate goal is to strengthen families. To do so her platform is geared to men, women and children.
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Email Address: Loosed03@gmail.com