Kelly Rowland, member of the group Destiny’s child and successful solo artist, released her new single Dirty Laundry. Gossip magazines and bloggers are frantically writing about Roland being a domestic abuse survivor and passing along “I told you so’s” about her being jealous of Beyonce.
Being a victim of domestic violence is common. Did you know that one woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds in the US? The rates for African American woman is higher. We have got to do more to raise awareness and prevent abusive behavior. I’m proud of Kelly for being brave enough to leave and to share her experience.
As far as her being jealous of BaddieBey, everyone has been jealous of someone. So why sensationalize it? If jealousy was an uncommon feeling it would not have been mentioned in the 10 Commandments:
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” – Exodus 20:17
When a person is jealous of someone they are in close relationships with—like a neighbor or sister—it effectively places them in seclusion. When a person is alone or feels alone it is hard for them to reach out for help.
Think about it. If the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy isn’t a single, lone victim easier to exploit than a group? Kelly’s abuser used her jealousy to his advantage. He made her feel like no one—including her mother and best friend—loved her. It was cruel.
During my early 20s, my bishop said, “When God says thou shalt not he is saying it for your own good.” Being down on herself allowed Kelly to be jealous, which in turn prevented her from seeking refuge in her close friends and family. I hope that Kelly now knows that she is fearfully and wonderfully made and not even Beyonce, as fiyah as she may be, is more worthy in God’s eyes.
Check out Dirty Laundry below.